About my Match
Sometimes, it’s very hard to know if the man a woman is dating is a loser. He may put on a “nice-guy” persona in the beginning, but won’t reveal his true self until a few dates in. Here are four ways for a woman to spot his jerk-factor on the first date!
He treats the waiter with disrespect. The way he treats other people is very telling of his personality. If your server gets him the wrong drink or forgets his starter salad, check for his reaction. Is he understanding and blasé about these mistakes? Or does he get irate and go on and on about the waiter’s ineptitude for the rest of the evening? If it’s the latter, be ready to bolt.
His eyes and mind wander. If a man is really into meeting and getting to know you, he’ll be hanging on your every word and asking you questions. If you sense his attention isn’t all there (i.e. he asks you to repeat yourself, has an empty look on his face) and he’s checking out his surroundings instead of you, cut him loose.
He’s more interested in himself than you. Yes, you want to hear anecdotes about him. Yes, you want to get to know him. But is he doing all the talking, waxing poetic about how awesome he is, without letting you get a word in edgewise? (Except for, of course, agreeing on how great he is.) If so, he could care less about getting to know you.
He “forgot” his wallet. Whether you assumed he’d pay, you’d split the bill, or figured you’d be paying since you did the asking out (you're a modern woman, after all), the fact that he didn’t come with cash means he pretty much was banking on you footing the bill. In short: he's a moocher and you don’t need him. (He’s an even bigger jerk if he orders the most expensive item off the menu before admitting his wallet-less state.)
What I look for in a person, which isn't to say that I'm here looking for anyone. But to answer, I want what every woman wants: An attractive man, toned, good hygiene, passionate, honest, sincere, down to earth, unselfish, smart, able to discuss and have a point of view in many topics and issues.
I consider myself a work in progress which I intend to continue without fail and hope to grow each day from the next. I dislike those pretending to be someone they are not. Shallowness is a turnoff no matter the outwardly beauty. I'm attracted to men of substance, something to say and a point of view they can justify or at least argue it logically. I've found that depth of character is an aphrodisiac. A man with deep feelings and thoughts empowers an attraction that is difficult to ignore. I'm drawn to spiritual people and kindness of heart.
Some things I'm not fond of are:
People who watch TV or play video games all day
People who are liars
People who have addiction problems
People who are manipulate.
Men with egos bigger than their penis size.
Labels on designer jeans and people.
Today's culture of meeting other people is one of immediacy and intimacy. There are so many opportunities to meet people through mobility and the Internet, which has also allowed people to tell all about their lives, however mundane most of it is. Settling for one person seems archaic.
The more opportunities to meet people, the harder to please the seekers are. This goes for both men and women. I think women are more materialistic now, and attributes like good looks and money are of paramount importance. Those who don't have them are left behind because there are so many more choices than in generations past. These are sweeping generalizations, of course. Women grouse just as much about noncommittal men. Be patient in finding someone. There normally comes a time in life when people want to seek out one person. You just never know when that time is. Most people have no trouble meeting others of the opposite sex, eventually you'll find one who's honest and cares for you. Meanwhile, enjoy the search. But, most people need to approach dating a bit differently. Just go out, have fun and don't put so much pressure on yourself to find the perfect one. If you start hanging out with those of the opposite sex more as friends, you'll eventually find that special someone who likes you and you like her/him, and it will develop into something.
Be patient. Relax. Don't look specifically for a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife, because that just brings pressure. It will happen, just give it time. Good luck!
I'm looking for someone that's young at heart, spontaneous and likes to be cared for and adored. Someone that's open and honest in all aspects of her desires and feelings and will feel comfortable sharing her life with me. I'm not looking for someone that's perfect as there's no such thing. After all, we're all human.
Finally, when communicating with me, tell me a little something about yourself. Don't just click the "winks" or the "invite to network" button and expect a speedy reply. After all, if you genuinely want to know something from me, then at least make the overture to send a personal note about yourself and what you're looking for along to me too. And include a photo or two of your face of what you look like. I'm honest enough to put myself out there, so you should too.
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you're a scammer and the first thing you're going to do is tell me you love me, your mother's sick and you need money, or a plane ticket, then pass me by and don't waste my time. I love life and genuine people. I don't indulge in fakery or flim flam, as life is too short. If I even get a hint that you're trying to scam me I'll report you to the Webmaster and have your profile removed as I've been literally inundated with all manner of schemes and scams from alleged women in need.
Whatever the color of your skin may be or the hardships you have to face in your life, friendship and music are two keys to escape from the wrong path. For those who took care of me, for those who are dead now, for those who succeeded in their professional life, for those who are parents...thanks for the memories and for having me become the woman I am today.
I don't care whether you're driving a hybrid or an SUV. If you're headed for a cliff, you have to change direction. That's what the American people called for when they voted for Obama for president.
I like to keep fit and am looking for a person who likes to do the same. Integrity, a strong sense of humor, the ability and willingness to communicate, strength and intelligence are also among the things I’m looking for. Someone who is interested in spending some time together and getting to know someone. I don't have great expectations for a long term relationship, but I'd be willing to consider it with the right person.
I found that those who "blog" are the true diamonds of this site. It's here where you learn about the person, their thoughts and true feelings and even a standard member can interact through "blogging". So, if you're reading my profile, then you're searching for something. Take my advice; read the blogs and find the person you search. If you want a quick lay, you'll soon learn that women rule in sites such as these for men are like rats to the cheese. I'm trying to carve my own path here. While doing so, have learned that there are great people here. One just needs to learn where to search. Don't always take the easy way, read the blogs, will take longer but the journey will be worth while and rewarding. Still, a woman can get laid by any man here; the "cheese" factor I mentioned above. If that's what you search - Have at it. We all need to feed. If you feel the same way, email me and let's talk.
Good luck in your search and thank you for taking the time to read my profile.