Being a great lover is not something that happens on occasion; it's a way of being. And if you want to be the man that your woman desires and fantasizes about all day, every day, then it's time for you to get a handle on what it is she wants from you.

Sure being great in bed is one aspect that will keep her excited, but there are a few other factors that will help you become the master in all your sexual endeavors.

1- Make her feel sexy

Although "sex" is the operative word in sexy, that's not what it's going to take to make her want you inside out. You have to acknowledge her, and yes, that might involve talking .

Here are a few ways to make her feel sexy:

Take care of yourself

Mind the way you look and keep yourself healthy. That includes eating right and exercising. Not only will that give her an incentive to look good as well, but it will serve to keep her sense of sight and sense of touch stimulated.

Listen to her

Don't just let her talk and contribute an "uh-huh... right... is that so?" every now and then. Pay attention and interact in the conversation. Ask her how she feels about you on occasion, and let her reveal how great she thinks you are (if you aren't great now, you will be when you're through with this article).

Compliment her

Now I'm not suggesting that you make your nose brown every hour on the hour, but commenting on her physicality, as well as her profound intelligence every now and then is great. Keep in mind that if you do it all the time, your flattery will lose its value. The same goes for uttering those three little words.

Maintain constant desire

Kiss her without expecting sex. Dance with her to Sinatra's music. Buy her a sexy outfit. Take her out for a romantic dinner. But hey, don't do everything at the same time. Let her know you desire her with action, not just words.

Look around you, and give her a performance she won't soon forget...

2- Take care of the atmosphere

Whether you're about to make love or have just invited her over to your place for nothing more than dinner and a movie, always keep your surroundings clean and inviting. A stench in the air and filth all around wouldn't turn anyone on.

Do your best to ensure that the air has a pleasant scent; nothing intrusive, rather something like lemon or musk (you can pull this off with potpourri or a scented plug-in).

As well, make sure there aren't any unmentionables lying around and there's no dust all over the place. The last thing you need is for her to have an allergic reaction and leave the premises.

3- Give great foreplay

Whether it's through talking about sex or engaging in sensual acts, foreplay can make or break your upcoming sex session.

Make her comfortable

To start, because most women are wondering what you're thinking about their bodies, it would help her relax and get comfortable if you told her that you thought she was "hot," "sexy" or "gorgeous." It'll make it easier for her to open up (and yes, I mean that the way it sounds).

Discuss your sexual future

It's okay to discuss what she likes, what you like, what your fantasies are (within reason), and what you plan on doing to each other. It can serve to entice her mind, which will ultimately end up enticing her entire body.

Kiss her

As well, take the time to kiss her. If there's one thing that many women complain about amid foreplay, it's that their men never take the time to enjoy their upper lips with their own. Lick her lips, lick her tongue and show her that you enjoy kissing.

Massage her body

You don't necessarily have to use your hands, but give her entire body a piece of the foreplay action by paying attention to everything from her ankles to the nape of her neck. Think outside the vaginal box.

Eat it all up

Do you like receiving oral sex? So does she, so get into position and start by lightly licking her clitoris and then slowly make your way down her inner labia and lick all around the area. And if you like, throw your fingers into the mix. Also, if you feel like getting into a 69 position, let her be on top, that way she can control your sucking and her own.

Take your time

There are days when having a quick sex session is great, but every once in a while, it's great to slow down and appreciate everything about your woman, and let her appreciate everything about you.

Sexual technique and what to do when it's all over...

4- Great sexual technique

Now that you've managed to rev her up with your foreplay abilities, it's time to get down to business, uh, I mean pleasure. So how can you be great in bed?

Be vocal

You don't have to scream like a banshee, nor do you have to give her a play-by-play on what's going on. But you should make some noise when you're enjoying something, that way she'll feel good that you're feeling good and in turn, she'll feel great.

Try different positions

Missionary, doggy, her on top. Ooh, how exciting. It's time you began to experiment with all sorts of different positions. And if you want to check out detailed pictures of hundreds of amazing positions

Give her an orgasm or ten

If you aren't able to find a position in which your penis hits her G-spot, then give her a clitoral orgasm. While you're penetrating her, use your (clean) index and middle fingers to rub and tickle her clitoris.

Stroke slowly

Start out your penetrative state slowly. Let your penis slide all the way inside of her and just about all the way out. Even if she begs you to go faster, don't. Watch as your penis goes in and out of her and get her to watch the "miracle" as well.

Use mirrors

Watching yourselves make love is a great turn-on for most. Make love to her in front of a mirror, or make love in an area where you're able to watch each other. And no, the mirror doesn't have to be on the ceiling.

5- After all the play

Your orgasm was great; her multiples were great. Take a few minutes to relax, but try not to fall asleep. Make sure that you're touching her body whether your hand is on her thigh or your arm is around her. As well, talk about what just happened. Tell her what turned you on and what you enjoyed most. Omit negative commentary.

The point of after-play is to ensure that you're both on the same page and make each other feel great about what just went on. So kiss her and take the time to talk about the sexual experience you just had.

she's crazy for you now

So until next time, bask in the glory of knowing that you're one of the greatest lovers this side of AskMen.